Personal Attraction Test � 08.12.03
I Feel

Alex sent me this test and I found my results strangely interesting and frightenly similar to his....

Who You Are

You're a pillar of strength

You're a woman with a very balanced personality and lifestyle. You believe in making room in life to relax, think, and have fun. You refuse to settle long-term for a boring job or doing something just because it's expected of you. Love is the same way. You know what real love feels like and you'll accept no imitations! You pride yourself on not being the "typical woman." You're more honest and straightforward than most women. But just because you don't "wear your heart on your sleeve" doesn't mean you lack deep feelings. In fact, you're deeply committed to your loved ones and the causes you believe in. Women as truly balanced as you are very rare.

What's dating all about to you?

Finding a loving relationship is a mission for you. You have clear goals and even a timeline in mind. Falling in love is an especially magical experience. You're suddenly free from the rules and thinking that guide your life. You usually keep your feelings and life under control. But remember, the bigger the dam, the bigger the flood when it breaks!

You face two major challenges in finding the love of your life. First, because your mind is so busy making sure you say and do the right things on dates, it's hard for your deeper and caring self to come through. It feels risky to share this part of yourself. Second, although having a vision of what you want can be helpful, the risk is that your high standards and rush to find the perfect man can get in the way of loving a real-life imperfect man.

Quirks men notice

Like all women, you have your strengths as well as your quirks and shortcomings. Ultimately, you want to find someone who will love and accept you "warts and all." Because you're a private person, it's especially important that you find a partner who understands.

You have a pretty even-tempered personality and may not have any especially annoying or quirky habits. Of course, seeming to be "perfect" could be seen as a flaw by some, in which case you may just want to pretend to have a bad habit!

Do men like your type?

Notice that 82% of men are generally attracted to your personality type. 25% say they are VERY attracted.

Who You're Looking For

He'll be an enigma

You're looking for a man who can be your lover AND your best friend! He should be someone you can count on to be sincere and do what he promises to do. His career or community involvement is probably focused on helping others. You'll be impressed by how he can see the "big picture" and have a vision of what he wants to accomplish, while still having a practical and down-to-earth style. Though he can be outgoing and charming at times, you also will find he has a shy and quiet side. Unlike most men, he's not afraid of his emotions. In fact, the two of you will probably share an immediate, passionate connection. Together you could create a very intimate and passionate long-term bond.

You don't expect your partner to be in a good mood all the time. You understand that sometimes your partner will be down, get pessimistic or worry too much. These days are balanced by the many good days the two of you will share. In fact, you share a number of positive qualities, including:

He's organized so he plans ahead for dates and is always on time.

Opposites sometimes attract

You want to share your life with someone who has the same values, goals, and style you have. Research has shown that couples who have more in common tend to stay together longer. Still, sometimes differences can help create a "spark" and excitement about each other. Part of you wants to be more like him, or at least have his unique style in your life. He could be good for you in many ways:

He can help balance you when you become too caught up in your thinking and planning and need to take care of yourself emotionally.

Quirks you can tolerate

The truth is that everyone is potentially "high maintenance." We all have our quirks and shortcomings. The key to long-term harmony is finding a man who can tolerate (or maybe even enjoy) your "quirks," or the little personal oddities that make you unique. You seem okay with several common quirks that might come along with your "ideal" man:

You can appreciate that his big heart lets him be swayed too much by emotions and a desire to keep his friends and family happy.

His tendency to get a little jealous won't bother you too much and at times may even be flattering.

You can understand his career drive and crises at work, even though he sometimes drags these hassles home.

Downside of your "ideal"

In addition to his quirks, your "ideal" personality type may have other qualities that are more frustrating or challenging to deal with. Under stress, his quirks can become serious "flaws." But remember, these quirks are the "flip side of the coin," or the extreme end of qualities you otherwise find appealing. So, be prepared if:

He can be overly sensitive and dramatic at times.

Deal breakers

You seem ready to adapt to the good and frustrating qualities of the men you're looking for, but there are types of men you clearly do NOT like. Men's habits and attitudes you'd have a hard time putting up with include:

Men who lack an imaginative or creative side.

Men who wait until the last minute to make plans (for weekend fun, for example) and even seem to resist your attempts to plan activities ahead.

Sex

Sensual balance

Good sex is important to you, but it's only one of many ways to bond with your partner. You like to plan ahead for special times when the two of you can get away. You like to make sex a relaxing part of your time together.

Among women your age, your particular combination of sexual drive and interests is similar to about 1 in 8 women (13%).

Is he sexually compatible?

You're looking for someone just like you, who values the quality of sex over the quantity. You want someone who would never pressure you about sex.

What's ahead for you sexually?

Once you've found your sexual match, the stage will be set for a happy and stable relationship. Your good and honest nature will make your partner feel at ease and unpressured sexually. The down side? Your "comfortable" sex can become "boring" over time. However, just because you're conservative on the outside doesn't mean you can't explore your inner "wild" side with your partner. Make plans for sensual nights together, when you can make love and explore your bodies. Show your partner that still waters really do run deep!

If I could show you what Alex's results were by directing you to his diary without him getting extremely pissed at me I would but I can't so I won't. Sorry!